Last Thursday, a young woman took to the social media site Reddit to ask Internet users what she should do after her boyfriend told her he wanted to propose with a ring that he had designed for his ex-girlfriend.

In a post called “Is it unreasonable rejecting an old engagement ring?” a social media user going by the username thatgirlwithqns explained that her boyfriend had told her that he wanted to ask her to marry him with an engagement ring that he had spent thousands of dollars customizing overseas for a former girlfriend. He had told her that he would only get a few hundred dollars if he sold the ring, so he’d rather use it to propose to her.

While the woman sees the practical side of this, she can’t help but feel uneasy over the fact that her engagement ring was meant for his ex.

“Something in my heart just can’t get over the fact that the ring was originally made for someone else in mind,” she wrote. “He assured me that she never wore it, but I just don’t want something that wasn’t made for me.”

She asked Reddit users if she was being unreasonable, and nearly everyone said that she was firmly in the right. Relationship expert April Masini saw the post and agreed that the woman had good reason to be uncomfortable with this.

“This guy needs to get his priorities straight,” April said. “If he wants someone to say yes to a proposal to spend the rest of her life with him, why not start out with grace and generosity? In other words … get a new ring!”

She added that the woman should “trust her instincts” about the situation.

“That she is bothered by this incident is valid. She should be,” April said. “This guy has lots of options to make his new fiancée feel special, and he’s taken none of them.”

“If this was an heirloom that had been in the family for decades or generations, repurposing it would be a nice idea, but this is the ring he bought for another woman, five years ago!” she continued. “Repurposing this ring or this stone, or any part of it, is tacky.”

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