Losing a child before you ever get to meet them is devastating, but that is exactly what Royce and Keri Young had to do. The Oklahoma City, Oklahoma, couple found at last year that they would be adding a little girl to their family, but the doctors had more news.

Their baby girl, Eva, was growing inside her mother’s womb without a brain. The doctors told the devastated parents that their baby wouldn’t live long after birth and there was nothing they could do to fix it.

That’s when Keri asked another unexpected question, and Royce shared the last few months of experiences with Facebook. His post was lengthy, but worth the read.

In the post he explains how he watched his wife sleeping peacefully on the couch before leaving for New Orleans. He recalls seeing her big belly with his daughter inside kicking away, and knowing that she wouldn’t live more than just a few days after her birth.

He shared how amazing he thinks his wife is and remembers back to the moment when they found out the news about their baby girl. Somehow, through the tears, within seconds, Keri asked the doctor, “If I carry her full term, can we donate her organs?”

The doctor reached his hand across to her and said, “Oh honey, that’s so brave of you to say.” Like, ‘how nice of you, but come on.’ Royce says he was so heartbroken and filled with his own grief, and here she was finding her superpowers.

In less than a minute of finding out her own baby wasn’t going to live, she was thinking about someone else and how her selflessness could help them. Royce says it is one of the most powerful things he has ever experienced.

“This whole process has been rough, but I say that as someone watching from the bleachers like the rest of you. Keri has been in the trenches the entire time, feeling every little kick, every hiccup, and every roll,” said Royce.

“She’s reminded every moment of every day that she’s carrying a baby that will die,” he continued. “Her feet are sore. Her back hurts. She’s got all the super fun pregnant stuff going on. But the light at the end of her nine-month tunnel will turn into a darkness she’s never felt before.”

Royce explains that they made their choice to carry Eva to full term for a lot of reasons, but the biggest was to donate her organs. They didn’t do that to be great people, but it gave them a purpose to continue on.

‘There’s another family out there hurting and hoping for a miracle for their baby knowing full well someone else’s baby will need to die first,” Royce explained. “Eva can be that miracle.’

He says they’re getting close to the finish line and its going to be amazing to run through that tape and meet Eva, even though it will come at a cost. They’ll go to the hospital with a baby, and come home without.

While some people say they wouldn’t try to change anything about their circumstances, Royce says he most definitely isn’t one of them. If he could change things he would. He’d want his daughter to be perfect, blow out candles on her birthday, and one day walk her down the aisle.

Unfortunately, this is their reality instead and there’s no stopping it. Looking at his wife, Royce says that she’s is tough and brave. Incredible and remarkable. And somehow, she’s his wife.

What an amazing and remarkable woman and couple. I can’t even pretend to understand their situation. Please share this story with your family and friends and be sure to say a prayer for this couple as they face the challenges ahead.