Here is a lesson to all you ladies who are about to get engaged or have the slightest inkling to complain that your diamond ring is too small — read this and learn from this woman’s mistake.

Recently, a woman who was disappointed by the size of her engagement ring did not find the advice she wanted online.

People on parenting advice forum NetMums have been sharing their take on one woman’s disappointment over her engagement ring, drawing the conclusion that it’s not the ring, it’s the finger that’s the problem.

The user by the name of Sarah S shared her saga on the site, stating she “love[s] her fiancé very much” and had “the most beautiful proposal,” though as soon as she saw the ring, she was not pleased.

“When he opened the box the first thing I thought was ‘it’s small,'” she wrote.

She continued, “The ring is lovely – it’s a platinum, round brilliant cut solitaire 0.8ct. He had it made from a reputable firm and it cost just shy of($6,450).

“I have done so much research, I constantly stare at other people’s rings and still look in shop windows and I can’t help but feel a 0.8ct (nearly a whole carat!) should look a bit bigger. He even told me when he collected it he too thought it looked small. He knew my friends’ rings were around 0.6-0.7 and bless him, he said he wanted me to have a ‘better’ ring to be proud and show off – mine look tiny compared to my friends’ rings, it makes no sense,” she went on.

The woman wrote that the ring setting is also “very low” and lays flat to her hand.

While the woman insists she’s “not a shallow or fickle person,” she did want advice on how to approach the subject of her disappointment. She said, “I broached it with him the other day and he got annoyed, saying he got me what I wanted. It’s a beautiful ring and I shouldn’t be so ungrateful as it’s making him feel bad.”

Of course, when you ask the internet they don’t hold back.

One person said, “Its not about the ring, it’s about the finger. Like you said; your friends have rings with smaller stones but those still look bigger than yours. The difference is in the finger it’s on.”

Another noted, “Your fiancé is right, you got what you asked for but unfortunately he has to put than a ring on your finger and he can not change *your finger.*”

Then there was the — “Wow I am sorry but how ungrateful are you,” and more to follow.

She asked, you know?