Weddings are unfortunately breeding grounds for family drama. Maybe its something about having an audience or the fact that you might have backup. Who knows!?

An anonymous bride took to Reddit to ask whether she was wrong in firing her niece from her role of flower girl on the day of the wedding … apparently she wasn’t expecting to be dubbed a total jerk.

Here’s what happened: At the very last minute the bride decided that she should only have one flower girl at her wedding and so she decided to play favorites between her eight-year-old nieces Amber and Katie — she chose Amber.

She wrote, “Unfortunately for my perfect day I felt shallow and since Amber has more of a typical angelic ‘cute’ appearance (very long hair, glasses, big smile) I picked her. Her parents also convinced me she deserved it because she got top marks in some assessment her school did.”

As you’d expect, the parents to the kid were not pleased.

Katie’s dad (bride’s brother) approached his sister to tell her that Amber had in fact been bullying Katie about not being chosen.

The bride wrote, “The girls have never liked each other for reasons I don’t know. I didn’t pay too much mind to it since I was too caught up in myself.”

Things however took a turn and the bride changed her mind yet again when she “got to witness the bullying” firsthand. She shared, “Amber (and keep in mind this is an eight-year-old child) told Katie that she’d never get married because she’s too ugly. I could imagine how upsetting this would be for a child and I made Amber apologize and also took away the flower girl job and gave it to Katie.”

Again, parents weren’t pleased. The bride noted that Amber cried through the entire wedding and even days after. Amber’s dad (bride’s other brother) called up his sister to tell her how “extremely angry” he was as she relieved Amber of her flower girl duties.

The bride defended her decision saying, “As someone who was bullied myself growing up, it felt like [it was] the right thing to do after Amber’s behavior towards Katie. I can’t imagine how upsetting those comments would be, and at that point, Katie, who had never been anything other than well behaved, deserved it more than Amber.”

However, her brother was not the only one who felt the bride was in the wrong for her decision.

“[You’re wrong] for not just having two flower girls. Like, why was this even an issue in the first place?” one user shared in a comment, which has since been upvoted more than 23,000 times by people who agreed.