Back in 2016, NBA assistant coach Monty Williams went through an unspeakable tragedy when his beloved wife Ingrid was killed in a car accident. After her death, Monty bravely stepped up to give the eulogy at her funeral in front of 900 people, and the powerful words he said have since gone viral.
Monty, who is Assistant Coach for the Oklahoma City Thunder, is a proud Christian who was married to Ingrid for 20 years. Together, the devoutly Christian couple wrote the book “Look Again 52,” which is a guide to exploring the Bible throughout the year. Ingrid was killed after a speeding SUV lost control, crossed over the yellow line and hit her car head-on.
Though her death left Monty as a single parent raising their five children alone, he never questioned his faith in God for one minute. Instead, it was his faith that gave him strength during this time, as he was able to know that his wife was in a better place.
“God will work this out,” Monty said at her funeral. “My wife is in heaven. God loves us. God is love. And when we walk away from this place today, let’s celebrate. Because my wife is where we all need to be. And I’m envious of that. But I got five crumb-snatchers I’ve got to deal with. I love you guys for taking time out of your day to celebrate my wife. We didn’t lose her. When you lose something you can’t find it. I know exactly where my wife is. I’ll miss holding her hand. I’ll miss talking with my wife.”
Monty went on to address the woman who was responsible for the crash.
“Everybody is praying for me and my family, and that is right, but let us not forget that there were two people in this situation, and that family needs prayer as well. And we have no ill will toward that family. In my house, we have a sign that says ‘As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.’ We cannot serve the lord if we don’t have a heart of forgiveness,” he said. “That family didn’t wake up wanting to hurt my wife. Life is hard. Life is very hard. And that was tough. But we hold no ill will towards the Donaldson family. And we, as a group, brothers united in unity, should be praying for that family, because they grieve as well.”
The eulogy did not come as a surprise to those who know Monty, as they know how important his faith is to him.
“If you know Monty, you’re a better person for knowing him,” said David West, who plays for the San Antonio Spurs. “It’s a really tough situation for his family. He’s a courageous man. I envy his strength and his courage. That was probably one of the most powerful moments of my life, sitting there listening to him have the strength to stand in front of his children and ask everybody to pray for the other lady that lost her life. It showed strength and courage I’ve never experienced in my life. So our hearts are with him.”
“This is hard for my family, but this will work out,” Monty concluded. “And my wife would punch me if I were to sit up here and whine about what is going on. That doesn’t take away the pain, but it will work out because God causes all things to work out. You just can’t quit; you can’t give in.”
Please keep this family in your thoughts and prayers. Watch Monty’s full eulogy for Ingrid below.